Charm may seem to be a female thing but who is there, male or female, who would not like to be seen as charming? Taken up with the idea, two noted personality trainers, Brian Tracy and Ron Aarden, did some research and published a whole book containing their findings. One obvious thing is that they would not have written a book if they had not concluded that men along with women like to be seen as being charming.
So how do you help other people feel they are charming? When you accomplish this, you will surely feel you are charming yourself. Here’s the formula:
First, convey acceptance. Accept the other person unconditionally.
Second, appreciate others. Express a genuine appreciation for people and for all they do to make life pleasant for others.
Third is give approval. All humans have a deep subconscious need for approval of their actions.
Fourth is recognize accomplishments. When you give people a genuine complement about their accomplishments, they are bound to feel better about themselves.
Five, give attention When you give people your undivided attention, they are bound to feel they are charming,
So there is the formula. Put it to work and you will be on your way to being identified as one who is charming.
Gregory B. Anderson–director